Meditation means to gently notice what is already here, without trying to change it in any…
“Meditate more and more deeply, until calmness and joy become second nature to you. “To be ecstatic is not difficult. It is thinking that it is difficult that holds you apart from it. Never think of divine joy as distant from you, and it will be with you always.”
[inspiration] steps to mindful communication
Reflecting on a couple of situations that have occurred between myself and others, i’ve come to realise how important it is to pause and consider the words you’re speaking, how you intend for them to come across and more importantly how the words are likely to be received.
When in conversation with friends who are going through personal things that we don’t know about, any and every statement we make can be taken personally, like an attack or a personal insult, especially when either your or their feelings or emotions are involved.
An unexpected response like that can prompt a negative reaction from us and then that can dictate the direction of the remainder of the conversation and everything goes downhill from there.
Here are some lessons i’ve learnt in mindful communication.
check check.. throat check!
check your throat - how is it feeling? is your throat closing up? when you’re in a conversation that is getting heated or tense and you’re either biting your tongue or you’re letting rip our throat can become dry or it will straight up close up. if this is happening, check yourself - breathe and consider your next move. leave the convo, end it or be super mindful in what you’re gonna say next.
watch your tone
its all good and well if you’re wanting just to communicate your feelings or grievances but how you are perceived by the other person dictates the rest of the interaction - so take time. watch the pace you speak at cos speaking quickly denotes your irritation and speaking really slow is as condescending as shit so be cool and speak as you normally would.
slow down and breathe
before you’re about to get into a conversation, especially one that you already know might get heated, at the very start breathe. deep breathing calms and settles the nervous system which in turn allows you to speak from that calm and settled place.
spirit and the conscious mind alike only recognises logic and reason. talking down to others or attacking them and being conscious about it only leads to that energy being exchanged back. speak from your heart, not your ego. give off vibrations of love and your point is more likely to be received with the intention its meant.
don’t be a bitch
if shit is going down, the least you can do is not be is rude on purpose, while you’re there. critiquing others and pointing out their weaknesses or flaws doesn’t make you perfect or strong. lift people up or leave them there.
(via meditate and medicate)
[inspiration] 6 Ways Sleep Makes Your Life Better
Sleep is one thing we defo take for granted and forget its importance - for eg, if i sleep for 4 hours and drink some green tea (or coffee if thats your flavour) i’lll be good, then we wonder why we look and feel like zombies! I know a lack of sleep makes me clumsy, irritable and makes me lose my appetite and no amount of yoga or green juice can fix me like a nap or a proper stint of sleep.
Although the amount of sleep we need can be debated i think it’s down to our individual needs to dictate that choice. Regardless of if its 7 hours or 10 sleep is important and i found some info on the ways sleep improves our lives.
Sleep saves us from making bad decisions.
Not getting enough sleep negatively affects our frontal lobe, a part of the brain that governs decision-making. We make poorer food choices in a sleep-deprived state and decide to rest instead of exercise. Research also shows that lack of sleep in adolescents leads to prefrontal cortex dysfunction, increasing the likelihood of engaging in risky behaviors, such as alcohol, drugs and unprotected sex.
Sleep prevents us from gorging on junk food and gaining weight.
Lack of sleep makes it more difficult to lose weight or maintain a healthy weight. That’s because not getting enough sleep increases the hormone that tells us “I’m hungry” (ghrelin) and reduces the “I’m full” signal (leptin). We then eat foods full of sugar, fat and carbohydrates to give us quick boosts of energy — and then have a harder time stopping. Getting enough sleep — around seven to eight hours — stops that negative cycle before it starts.
Sleep makes you look younger.
There’s no question that sleep helps us look better. Research shows that sleep-deprived people are perceived as less healthy, less attractive and more tired compared to those who’ve had a good night’s sleep. Good quality and quantity of sleep help boost production of HGH, or human growth hormone. HGH is produced during the deeper stages of sleep and is highest in childhood and adolescence, but remains lower, but steady, in adulthood. Less sleep equals less time for HGH production, and less HGH has been linked with reduced muscle mass, slower metabolism, more belly fat and sagging skin.
Sleep helps us fend off colds.
If you don’t get enough quality sleep on a regular basis, you are more susceptible to illness. Is there an annoying cold that’s going around the office? Proper hand hygiene is definitely paramount, but making sure you are well rested may even help reduce the risk or severity of a cold.
Sleep helps you focus on important tasks.
Sleep is crucial for attention, concentration and coordination. Poor sleep has repeatedly been shown to lead to poor work and school performance. Sleep-deprived adolescents and young adults are often dozing in class and struggle with learning and retaining information. Lack of sleep impairs attention, completing tasks and concentration. You might need to read the same thing over and over again, becoming less efficient overall. In addition, insufficient sleep can impair motor functioning, making exercise more challenging and slowing overall reaction times. Notably, sleep deprivation leads to about 100,000 sleep-related automobile accidents a year, with 1,500 of them resulting in death.
Sleep gives us a mood boost.
When we’re better rested, we tend to be less irritable, depressed and anxious. With better mood comes better quality of life. We desire to engage in activities that we find enjoyable and conversely, we get more enjoyment out of life in general.
If you’re contemplating making some changes to rejuvenate your life, consider putting proper sleep at the top of the list. You may even find that, with adequate nightly sleep, it will be easier to achieve the other things on your list.
(via meditate and medicate)